Sometimes keeping a secret can feel a bit icky. It’s uncomfortable and maybe even a little stressful.
However, it’s important to remember that you should never feel like you must tell someone about your issues with pregnancy or infertility. Yes, you want to connect with others. But there’s a difference between keeping a secret and protecting yourself during a difficult time.
In the end, how much you choose to disclose is nobody’s business but your own. It doesn’t mean you have to be mean or standoffish. It’s okay to set boundaries for yourself.
For example, if a friend or family member keeps asking you prying questions, try one of the following responses:
“Actually, I’m really not comfortable talking about this right now. Thanks for understanding.”
“We’ve been waiting until after the holidays to discuss it again.”
“Can we change the conversation?”
The holidays can be exhausting enough without the added pressure of talking about fertility and pregnancy. Seeing lots of friends and family can sap our energy and add to our stress levels.
So don’t feel bad about leaving early or taking the time for some extra TLC. Whether that means a bath and a book, or your favorite trashy television show, veg out if you need to—and try not to feel guilty about it.
Bonus Tip: If you bring your partner or friend, make a game plan for how long you want to stay at a holiday party, or even create a signal that means “I’ve had enough. It’s time to go.”
Dealing with infertility, or the prospect of using donor eggs, can leave many women feeling like they’ve failed. It’s no surprise if you find it difficult to talk about.
However, sometimes disclosing the information to the right person can be both healing and instructive. Understanding friends and family can help relieve any anxiety you may have. Use your judgment. If it feels right, try it.
No matter what stage of the process you’re in, finding emotional support, whether through apps, private Facebook groups, therapy, or other means, is very important. Remember you’re not alone, and we are here to help you every step of the way.
If you’re interested in learning more about egg donation, the expert team at Donor Egg Bank USA is ready to answer your questions about egg donors, the IVF process, and our success rates. Contact us today.