After battling with infertility for years, you finally find success! Your pregnancy test came back positive, and the thought of holding your precious child in your arms seems that much closer to becoming a reality.
"I’ve waited for my baby for so long, but will I accept that he/she will be born from a donor egg? Will it be obvious that my baby isn’t genetically linked to me?"
These are common concerns for so many women who have used donor egg IVF treatment. Here are four (4) important things to remember when faced with these types of questions.
Before the morning sickness, growing baby bump and sonogram pictures, you chose to bring a beautiful baby into this world. The many long years of IVF attempts did not stop you from dreaming and persevering toward your goal of being a parent. The gift of a donor’s egg helped to make your dream a reality, and now you have the chance to share your love with your beautiful baby.
You may feel an emotional twinge because you don’t have the opportunity to have children genetically related to you. However, whether you chose an anonymous donor or someone you know, you have control over the baby’s genetics. If the donor is someone you know, you will already be familiar with her family history, personality, and genetic traits. If you chose a donor from a clinic database, you’ll have access to her health and family history, educational background, child and adult photos, and so much more! Both options should give you peace of mind that your donor choice will play a big part in determining who your baby becomes.
When it comes to donor egg IVF, you’re getting one cell. Yes, it’s a very important cell, but ultimately, it is your body that will make that baby. You are every bit the biological mother. And for those using a gestational carrier (GC), you can celebrate your opportunity to choose who will aid you on your journey to parenthood!
Think about it this way – it’s nine months versus eighteen years and beyond! While the pregnancy process is exciting in itself, you can look forward to making a mountain of memories with your new bundle of joy. Your child will learn to talk like you and walk just like you. Every day, you will see your impact and you should feel excited to start this new journey with them!
From the hundreds of women and couples who have found success here at California Cryobank’s Donor Egg Bank, there have been no regrets when it comes to using donor egg to have a baby. The moment you gaze into your child’s eyes for the first time, all fears and doubts should start to fade away. You did it, you deserve this, and your new adventure of parenthood is about to begin!
I don't know who my donor egg woman is but I can't thank her enough for the precious gift I am carrying. I will always be grateful to her, this is my baby. However, I have to give her credit for sharing something so magical with me and my husband. Thank you to whoever you are and wherever you are. Gods grace and mercy be with you and your family
Submitted by Shannon 1 month ago
This has been the BEST decision we have ever made!!! After 2 failed attempts with donor eggs, we changed donors and now are currently 6 weeks 3 days pregnant for the first time ever. I have been told I had “ underwear I ed infertility” and would never have children. WELL, that simply was not true! We are so excited to bring our bundle, boy or girl, into our lives and cannot wait for the arrival. There is ALWAYS HOPE WITH FAITH!
Submitted by Josh and Amy Wilson 1 month ago
I wish we could afford to do this. I want a baby so bad. Congratulations to everyone having or have had the baby. Blessings
Submitted by Karen 1 month ago
Karen, there are shared programs available where the intended parent pays for your own services. Never say never!
Submitted by Monica 1 month ago
I having being able to afford my dream came true and it makes me sad but very happy for the couples that are able to experience the unique experience and wish many good things and blessings for all of you.
Submitted by Martha 1 month ago
Am pregnant with second donor egg baby (same donor). After almost 12 years of infertility and ivf treatments. Second donor attempt and pregnant. Same donor... and now a second pregnancy... at 47 (sibling project)! Am delighted ... our hearts are full! I have one wonderful mischievous silly brilliant daughter and her baby sister on the way in just weeks. I just wish we had done this sooner. These are our children... no others would ever do now. I can't thank our donor enough. Our families have embraced our children and there has not been even the smallest hiccup. Best of luck to all those making this journey. It has been a fantastic one for us.
Submitted by AK 1 month ago
After many IUIs, a miscarriage and a failed IVF with my own eggs, I used donor eggs and donor sperm and now my wife and I have 3 Beautiful children a baby girl due in October 2018. I will be 48 yrs old when I have my 3rd child, we had access to pics of the donors from a baby to an adult, medical history, interests, hobbies, athletics. Our children our or world we wouldn’t change a thing about the process of having them. I carried them and they are 100% ours. My son looks like me and my daughter like my wife. Genetics can be a wonderful process picking the right donor for you. Even if they didn’t look like us we would have the same love of being parents to 3 Beautiful children. Family and loved ones know our journey to having children and are 100% positive towards us and our journey to having children, we also donated a couple of Embryos to a family member that couldn’t conceive with her husband. The gift of being able to donate a frozen embryo is the best gift you could ever give a family who wants a child. Many blessing to everyone in your journey!
Submitted by JLN 1 month ago